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Shay Rees-DaviesCounselling Sexologist · TRE® Provider
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Counselling

Specialized sexuality counselling, trauma support, and existential exploration.

Our work is primarily coaching — forward-focused, goal-oriented, and grounded in skill-building, belief deconstruction, and somatic self-regulation. Therapeutic integration and processing may be woven in when it supports your goals. If your needs fall outside my professional scope, I connect you with trusted clinical specialists.

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What we may explore

Topics that often unfold in our work together.

Every journey is different. These are some of the territories that frequently arise in sessions — chosen and paced entirely by you.

01

Acknowledge Your Story

Become conscious of the social, cultural, and religious rules you've carried. Filter out external noise, keep what resonates, release what no longer serves. Together we get curious about the inner critic that says 'I am not enough,' using evidence-based cognitive reframing to dismantle limiting beliefs.

02

Understand Your Body

Make the unknown known by gaining a clear, factual understanding of your anatomy, reproductive system, and genital health. We explore how physiological stress, hormonal shifts, chronic illness, and medications directly impact desire, energy, and sexual capacity — demystifying the responses behind challenges so you can move out of fear and toward empowerment.

03

Learn How to Use Your Voice

Define what you want, and develop the confidence to articulate your boundaries, needs, and desires — both in and out of the bedroom — without guilt or fear of conflict. We work on shifting away from passive people-pleasing and default appeasement, building your capacity for radical self-advocacy.

04

Explore Pleasure, Eroticism & Desire

Embrace attraction, arousal, and pleasure on your own terms — free from societal scripts or performance pressure. Through self-directed touch and sensory connection, you'll safely explore your inner erotic landscape and learn intimacy beyond outcome-based pressure.

05

Transform Pain to Power

Map your body's unique stress and trauma patterns so you can recognize when you are bracing, freezing, or checking out. We explore somatic tools and mindfulness techniques to build capacity to navigate life's challenges without feeling overwhelmed — interrupting old default responses and reclaiming space in your mind and body.

06

Recognise Relational Ripple Effects

As you step into your full truth, we focus on dismantling old, subconscious patterns that sabotage deep connection and intimacy. You'll gain practical tools to navigate conflict constructively, focusing on genuine resolution and intimacy rather than 'right-fighting.'

What you can expect

The Permission Baseline.

Total freedom to feel, desire, and question old rules without judgment. You hold complete consent over what we explore and the pace we set.

I am transparent about my ethical boundaries and my practical training and experience: no hands-on touch and no nudity — all sessions are strictly non-touch and fully clothed; adults only; no diagnosing or treating mental health disorders. When appropriate, I will refer you to medical or clinical specialists.

All you need is a reliable internet connection, a laptop or tablet with a working camera, and a private room where you won't be interrupted. Sessions are fully clothed and non-touch, held via Zoom or Teams.

When you're ready

A relaxed, zero-pressure 20-minute call to start.

Tell me a little about what you're navigating. If we aren't the right fit, I'll happily help connect you with someone who is.