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Counselling
Specialized support for the layers of your sexuality, identity, and lived experience — grounded in evidence-based sexology and held with radical non-judgment.
Explore CounsellingA practice for the journey inward
Unshamed.
Get out of that box. Reclaim your SELF.
Mind · Body · Pleasure · Power
A trauma-skilled, radically non-judgmental container dedicated to unshaming your body, honouring your desires, and stepping into your evolving truth.
20-minute call · no pressure · zero cost
Welcome
A space where your story is met with genuine compassion.
For years, I navigated the quiet weight of living out of alignment — trying to fit into rigid boxes shaped by cultural, social, and gendered expectations. Moving through life under those external rules slowly created a rift between who I was being and who I truly was, leaving me disconnected from my body, my desires, and my sense of agency.
Realising I was living by a script that wasn't mine forced the question that changed everything: Who am I beyond these expectations? And where do they come from in the first place?
My work is anchored in formal academic study, evidence-based guidelines, and international standards of sexual health care — held with warmth, curiosity, and a steady, trauma-informed hand.
With kindness, Shay
How I work
Five principles that shape every session.
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Evidence-Based
Anchored in formal academic study, evidence-based guidelines, and international standards of sexual health care (BSc Sexology).
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Somatic
Trained in Hatha Yoga and Tension & Trauma Release Exercises (TRE®) to gently nurture alignment between thinking, feeling, doing, and being.
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Inclusive
A radically non-judgmental container where cis, trans, queer, fluid, kinky, conservative, single, partnered, poly, or questioning — whoever you are is welcome.
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Ethical
Strict professional confidentiality, transparent scope, and clinical referrals when your needs fall outside my practice — no diagnosing, no touch, adults only.
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International
Fully virtual practice welcoming clients across time zones — appointments adapt to your local time, and the work is held online via Zoom or Teams.
Does any of this feel familiar?
Quiet patterns that quietly shape your days.
You've spent years fitting in that box — keeping up appearances, caring for everyone else, putting your own needs on the back burner, and doing what was expected of you. Yet something still feels off.
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The Exhausting Mind
You are constantly over-analysing, scanning the room, and anticipating scenarios that haven't — and may never — happen, just in case.
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The Physical Guard
You feel your body brace, your heart rate increase, a knot in your stomach, or a lump in your throat — even at a subtle hint of touch or intimacy.
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The Self-Doubt
You second-guess your instincts, dilute your opinions, and hold yourself back out of a deep fear of judgment or rejection.
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The Heavy Silence
You carry quiet shame or confusion about your body, your boundaries, or your sexual appetite.
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The Quiet Desire
You wish you had the words and confidence to ask for what you truly want, explore your fantasies, and embrace your evolving sexuality without feeling like you are doing something wrong.
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The Internal Shift
You find yourself questioning the core beliefs you've held for decades about sex, relationships, religion, and the pre-determined boxes you were taught to fit into.
Nothing changes if nothing changes
At what cost do things stay the same?
Staying neatly boxed away becomes far more exhausting than taking gentle steps towards honouring your truth.
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The People-Pleasing Loop
Always giving, always accommodating — but finding it nearly impossible to receive appreciation, love, pleasure, or care on your own terms.
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The Weight of Shame
Carrying silent doubt around your desires, sexual identity, or body — leaving you feeling disconnected from your own skin.
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The Quiet Frustration
Knowing deep down there is more to life and intimacy — but feeling stuck, afraid, or unsure how to ask for what you actually want.
Lightness in your chest · Depth to your breath · Steadiness in your body · Confidence in your voice · Openness to pleasure · Freedom to choose
How I can help
Four ways we can work together.
Whether you're seeking one-to-one support, a somatic practice to live alongside it, a small-group immersion, or a specialist report — each path begins with a free 20-minute conversation.
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TRE™
Somatic release work that activates your nervous system's natural capacity to restore balance, through gentle tremor and movement.
Explore TRE™
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Unbound
A guided, online group immersion weaving together somatic release, mindfulness, and thoughtful dialogue — at your own pace, in your own body.
Explore Unbound
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Forensic Reports
Objective, scientific analysis of how injury, trauma, or discrimination impacts an individual's sexual health, relationships, and quality of life.
Explore Forensic ReportsYour path to reclaiming yourself
What you can expect to unfold.
Our work together is where evidence-based sexology, trauma-skilled somatic resilience, and personal reclamation meet. Here are some of the territories we may explore.
Acknowledge Your Story
Become conscious of the social, cultural, and religious rules you've carried. Filter out external noise, keep what resonates, release what no longer serves. Together we get curious about the inner critic that says 'I am not enough,' using evidence-based cognitive reframing to dismantle limiting beliefs.
Understand Your Body
Make the unknown known by gaining a clear, factual understanding of your anatomy, reproductive system, and genital health. We explore how physiological stress, hormonal shifts, chronic illness, and medications directly impact desire, energy, and sexual capacity — demystifying the responses behind challenges so you can move out of fear and toward empowerment.
Learn How to Use Your Voice
Define what you want, and develop the confidence to articulate your boundaries, needs, and desires — both in and out of the bedroom — without guilt or fear of conflict. We work on shifting away from passive people-pleasing and default appeasement, building your capacity for radical self-advocacy.
Explore Pleasure, Eroticism & Desire
Embrace attraction, arousal, and pleasure on your own terms — free from societal scripts or performance pressure. Through self-directed touch and sensory connection, you'll safely explore your inner erotic landscape and learn intimacy beyond outcome-based pressure.
Transform Pain to Power
Map your body's unique stress and trauma patterns so you can recognize when you are bracing, freezing, or checking out. We explore somatic tools and mindfulness techniques to build capacity to navigate life's challenges without feeling overwhelmed — interrupting old default responses and reclaiming space in your mind and body.
Recognise Relational Ripple Effects
As you step into your full truth, we focus on dismantling old, subconscious patterns that sabotage deep connection and intimacy. You'll gain practical tools to navigate conflict constructively, focusing on genuine resolution and intimacy rather than 'right-fighting.'
What to expect from the process
A structured, trauma-skilled framework.
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The Permission Baseline
Total freedom to feel, desire, and question old rules without judgment — holding complete consent over what we explore and the pace we set.
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Fact-Based Education
Unpacking biological, psychological, cultural, and social aspects of sexuality and trauma using evidence-based sexology to strip away myths.
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The Custom Toolkit
Actionable somatic release practices, boundary scripts, and touch exploration tools tailored for you to integrate between sessions.
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Deep Integration
Grounded therapeutic processing to unpack conditioning and interrupt trauma responses — with full support and clinical referrals when required.
Working together globally
My practice is fully virtual, welcoming clients worldwide.
Dedicated, experienced, and compassionate support tailored for all genders, all sexual orientations, and all relationship dynamics — held in 100% confidential one-to-one or partnered sessions conducted via Zoom or Teams.
- 100% online, confidential 1:1 or partnered sessions
- Seamless scheduling across international time zones
- Dedicated, experienced, compassionate support
- Trauma-skilled and radically non-judgmental
Ready to reclaim your power?
Three gentle steps.
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Book Your Free Intro Call
Send your details via the contact form. I will reply to schedule a relaxed 20-minute discovery call by phone or video.
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The 20-Minute Discovery Call
A zero-pressure conversation to discuss where you are, answer your questions, and ensure we are the right fit.
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Begin Your Customised Journey
If aligned, we set your session schedule and send over your welcome pack so you can step into your personalised container.
Choosing yourself is not selfish — it is a radical act of self-love.
Still curious?